Tuesday, March 26, 2013

Date night -taking care of ourselves

There is a lot going on in our world. Both Mike and I seem really busy with work, civil unions were just passed, the US Supreme Court is hearing arguments on Prop 8 and the Defense of Marriage Act (rulings on both could affect marriage equality) and the list of emails/letters to write in support of animals is endless.

So what do we do?

Date night.

Mike is at his bi-weekly boot camp and I am cooking dinner. The furries have eaten and when Mike gets home we get to enjoy each others company, talk about our days, love on each other.

One of my firm beliefs is that in order to be a strong voice for the voiceless, in order to be a warrior for equality, I need to take care of myself first. That includes eating well, exercising, prayer and meditation, time with friends and definitely date nights with my husband.

When was the last time you had a date night with your other half?

Sometimes it's dinner out. Or a hike. Lately it also includes a run as we both train for our first half marathon. Regardless, it's time alone, just us.

I love it. I highly recommend it.

On date nights we both reinvigorate personally as well as a couple. It's not that we can't do that every day, it's that with the list of things going on that I wrote of above, it's easier to do when the focus is on date night.

Tonight's dinner is simple: blackened tofu with black beans, kale, butternut squash and corn. I tossed in some cayenne pepper, salt and pepper. It's all just cooking together on a low heat. It smells delish.

Of course date night can also include cooking together. That's a blast. When we do that Mike does most of the cooking and I do most of the talking!

We'd love to hear of your date nights!

Take care of yourselves. Make good decisions, ones that are healthy for you, your relationship, the animals and our world.

Thank you for reading!


  1. I love this. It is so important to take care of ourselves and our loved ones by connecting with intention like this.

    How long have you been married to each other?

  2. Thank you! Our 8th wedding anniversary is April 30th.

  3. Love the photo! I also agree that it's important to take care of ourselves and each other. Quality time is essential to keep us strong, compassionate and open-minded.

    BTW, though super-early, Happy Anniversary!

    Looking forward to meeting you in PDX :)

    1. Thank you so much! I am super stoked for PDX and look forward to meeting you too!

  4. Such great advice! By the way, I'm an ordained reverend and I can't wait to perform civil union ceremonies in Colorado! Woot!

    1. Thanks JL. May 1st will be here before we know it!