Thursday, February 13, 2014

Our legal marriage

It is difficult at best to write about becoming legally married without getting tears in my eyes.

Tomorrow I will legally marry the love of my life. I call Mike my good and perfect gift from God.

With all of my brokenness as a human being, I have grown with Mike and because of Mike, have learned how to love on a level I never knew existed, have become more willing to let go and to truly care about another human being in a way I never knew was possible.

We were married in our church in front of friends and family in 2005. Tomorrow we will marry in front of a small group of friends at a place that is so special to us. And this time it will be legal, acknowledged by the state of California and the US government. It will be as legal as any heterosexual couple married in California the same day.

The support we have gotten has been incredible. Even from total strangers. The gals who gave us hair cuts yesterday were ecstatic that they were able to be a part of our day. I couldn't believe the happiness they exuded as we told him that we were both getting married on Friday, and yes, to each other.

The love from our friends and family and those who read our blog has been incredible.

As a 48 year old man who has been publicly out since he was 21, I admit I am a little jaded. Being gay has not always been a great conversation starter. Even today there are many who dislike and even hate gay people. They hide behind their holy book when in fact the truth is that they just do not want to live in a world where people like me and Mike exist.

I am tolerant of someones opinions that are contrary to mine when it comes to sexuality, equality and freedom. My tolerance ends when they believe that their beliefs should trump mine or quite honestly affect my life in any way.

Their hate is unfortunate. It is also unacceptable. As I become legally married, I will of course continue to always speak out against hate and intolerance.

If you would be so kind to do so, please think of us at 4:31pm Pacific Time as we legally marry. Send us your love, thoughts, prayers, meditations.

Thank you.


  1. I’m so happy for you! Shall be thinking of you tomorrow! And yes, you’re right, someone’s personal opinions and objections should not interfere with another person’s life, as that person’s life and the actions they take out of love will not, in turn, affect the objector in any way.

  2. Best week ever! Birthday, road trip & gettin' hitched in gorgeous S.D.! Congratulations to you and Mike.

    Still so dumb you had to leave the state to do it, but the more people who do, the more crystal clear it will become that this is a universal right and equality does not wait for permission.

    Big friggin' hug to you both!

  3. Hi guys! My name is Cecilia, I'm writing you from Buenos Aires, Argentina. Here we have legal gay marriage and you have no idea how proud I am of the equality for all. My husband and I are also vegans and everything you write is like a fresh air to my thoughts about equality, cruelty free life and respect.
    Best wishes!!! Big hugs from here. Cecilia <3

    PS: I just started to follow you in twitter (I'm @CeBr4v0) =)

  4. Congratulations, Dan and Mike. Have a great day tomorrow.

  5. Congratulations! I hope tomorrow is a wonderful day.

  6. Congratulations!!! What a perfect day to be married, I wish you all the best on your journey in life together and send you loads of love and positive energy. I hope your special day is just what you hoped for. :) <3

  7. Congratulations and I'm sure it will certainly have been worth the wait! Sending you both all the best from Sydney, Australia. xxx (Looking forward to some photos)

  8. Mazel Tov!!! So happy for you both!!! Tears in my eyes, too!!! What an amazing day this is!

  9. Congratulations! So happy for you both -- can't even imagine what it would be like to not be able to get married when and where you want. Here in Utah we are hoping to change that soon (at least many, many of us are)! Love your blog, wish you well, Cheers to you guys!!!

  10. Congratulations and best wishes for this amazing vegan couple!!!